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Archives for April 2019

Devotion…Surrender…

surrender“Until you practice surrender, the spiritual dimension is something you read about, talk about, get excited about, write books about, think about, believe in – or don’t, as the case may be. It makes no difference. Not until you surrender does it become a living reality in your life.”
~Eckhart Tolle

There is an open secret to the spiritual life, and it’s called surrender.

We can try our best to understand the nature of reality and our conditioning. We can hope forever that our troubling thoughts and feelings will subside so we’ll finally be at peace.

But until we surrender, the happiness we long for will elude us.

The word “surrender” means to give back completely, to release our ownership of something and offer it back.

What do you surrender?

  • Your personal needs and desires
  • Attachment to the content and meaning of all thoughts
  • Attachment to things being familiar and known
  • The need to know
  • The need to understand and analyze with your mind
  • The need to control

Thats a lot! It’s everything you hang onto that keeps you feeling separate—from others, from yourself, and from life.

In fact, you never owned these things—they were never you. Surrender brings you back to what was always true.

Surrender everything that makes up your personal identity, and where are you? Who are you?

You’re empty, willing, and totally receptive to let yourself be the instrument of something greater. And that something greater is the natural intelligence that is the pure substance of life.

Everything is given—the people you know, your talents and skills, the situations you find yourself in, the challenges and joys that make up your life.

You can subtract your personal desires and ideas about things, and your life is still here, beautifully unfolding as it is.

And things get a lot easier once we stop resisting this movement. We’re coming into alignment with things as they truly are.

To me, surrender arises from absolute devotion to the intelligence of the life force that is all-knowing, all-encompassing. I bow down with utter humility, beyond receptive, open with nothing personal in the way.

I don’t need to carry any concerns or figure anything out. I don’t go into my mind for answers.

I simply let myself be taken by the river of life that is already flowing, receiving everything that’s given without one second of hesitation.

What’s invited is pure devotion, releasing everything until you are nothing and letting yourself be the vessel that you truly are.

You love what’s given with all your heart. You’re a thousand percent willing to do the bidding that’s offered.

Surrender leaves nothing out, not one stone unturned. But don’t get deterred by the totality of what is being asked of you. Take a baby step in the direction of surrender.

  • Stop questioning one idea you’re attached to and flow with what’s given.
  • Put aside your view on how you want things to be in one situation and wholeheartedly embrace what’s actually happening as it is.

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Bow down with humility to your one true home, and there’s just infinite luminous pure being.

“Life is a mystery. You cannot understand it unless you surrender, for your intellect cannot grasp its expansive and infinite nature, its real meaning and fullness. Bow down low and be humble; then you will know life’s meaning.”
~ Amma

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Stop…Be Still

“To a mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders.”
~Chang Tzu

It was a lightbulb moment for me when I realized how much I had been putting up barriers to life—and happiness.

I was in a place on my path where I was diligently studying my in-the-moment experience—and I discovered that my first response to people, situations, and new possibilities was to pull away in fear.

For many years, I had been automatically saying “No”—before I considered what was being offered, before I let myself feel the excitement of something new and unknown. I probably missed out on a lot.

I was moving away from what was being given, and it felt bad.

As soon as I saw this tendency, I was committed to changing it. I didn’t want to be tamped down by a wall of fear. I wanted to relax and feel peaceful more than anything. I just knew there was more to life, and I wanted to figure out how to find it.

Over time, I learned to turn inward toward my inner experience, right into the blocks and walls. I learned to deeply accept everything without any resistance.

I shifted from moving away to staying, opening, and fully receiving things as they are. Finally, I was saying “Yes!” to life. It was a happy revolution in my whole way of being.

Caught in our conditioning, we tend to move in three ways: toward, away, or against. Which is your style? See how your mind and body moves—and how you move along with it—and you will discover the endless peace that comes with not moving.

Moving Toward

People who move toward feel a well of need and lack inside. If this is your style, you leave your inner grounding and grasp at people and things to fill you up and give you what you think you’re missing.

You believe your thoughts that try to convince you that you’re not enough.

Who you are is not defined by these limiting thoughts. Who are you if you don’t believe them?

Let your attachment to these thoughts go, and you’ll see that you are openness itself, whole, full, and lacking nothing.

Moving toward looks like this:

  • Seeking approval and attention from others
  • Concern about the image you present in the world
  • Sacrificing yourself for others, then feeling resentful
  • Perceiving yourself as lacking and flawed
  • Difficulty walking away from relationships that aren’t working
  • Attachment to your personal dramas
  • Grasping money, people, and objects
  • Feeling that you are special and avoiding your ordinariness

When you notice these tendencies, stop. With loving acceptance, let the feelings and urges arise, but don’t act on them. Be the space that they arise in.

Relax back into yourself, and realize that life is complete, just as it is, in this very moment.

Moving Away

Moving away is about fear and avoidance. There is tightening in the body, contraction in the breath, and a physical pulling away from whatever is arising. Threat is seen everywhere.

Moving away is built on a perceived lack of safety and security. What are you really afraid of, anyway? Can you consider trusting that you are OK and that you can engage with life as it’s unfolding right now?

Moving away looks like this:

  • Doubt and indecision
  • Nonstop thinking fueled by fear
  • Avoiding people and situations
  • Trepidation in the face of anything new
  • Fear of committing to anything
  • Excessive worry
  • Holding yourself back

Moving away has strong physical and mental elements. Learn how to relax your body and nervous system and breathe deeply. Experiment with not running your life by all the thoughts that appear in your mind. Put the thoughts aside (they aren’t helping you), and stay here and present.

Open yourself fully to the wonder of what’s actually here now. What are you experiencing through your senses? What is the space that these sense perceptions arise in?

Moving Against

You’re moving against when you’re stuck in anger, frustration, and entitlement. Some of us live at odds with the world, resisting everything. We show up ready for a struggle, while missing out on what is actually here when we let our guard down.

Moving against is a defensive posture that avoids vulnerability. What if you allowed yourself to tenderly open to the reality of what’s here now?

Moving against looks like this:

  • Anger and resistance to people, situations, and the world
  • Rebelliousness
  • A sense of entitlement—things should be the way you want them to be
  • Judgment—either outward toward others or inward toward yourself
  • Stuffing anger by eating, sleeping, and avoiding conflict at all costs
  • Desire for power and control

It takes so much effort to face the world primed for a fight. Really, there’s nothing to protect. Feel the sensations of anger, and notice the effortlessness of being open, soft, and receptive. Relax into life as it’s unfolding.

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The strategies of moving toward, away, and against sap your energy. They divide, fragment, and keep you from relaxing into the infinite space of what’s true and real.

What to do when you notice these tendencies? Stop…be still. Feel the conditioned movements—and don’t move into them. Be the vast welcoming openness that they arise in.

You’re lovingly noticing the thoughts and feelings, but giving them no energy that makes them real.

They shed like a snake sheds its skin. And here you are…not moving and fully available to all of life.

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